Lack of Moral Purity Causes Insecurity

Proverbs 12:4 Dissected & Defined

A virtuous (morally good) woman is a crown (external representation) to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness (decayed) in his bones (internally).

Daily-Devo Paraphrase

In the Old Testament, a crown was an external representation that was reserved for a king. The word King was used in the New Testament to mean ruler. The old English word ruler is a synonym for the modern English word leader. In other words, yesterday’s kings would be today’s leaders! 

With this word triple defined, we can better understand what this verse could mean in today’s vernacular. The husband is the leader of the home. He is the king of the family, so to speak. His crowning jewel is his wife. She is the person God uses to bring forth the king’s family. 

The Importance of Moral Purity

She can make him, but she can break him, too. She holds the key to his kingdom. If she is morally pure she places a crown on the head of her king: the husband, the leader of the home. Others see the value of his kingdom, the strength of his castle, and the beauty of his queen. Though he is the head of the home, everyone knows that she is the neck that turns the head. She is virtuous.

Lack of Moral Purity Causes Insecurity

But, if she does not have moral purity, then the king of the home has a big problem. Though he still leads the home, he has no confidence that his leadership is secure. Internally, he questions everything about his kingdom and is unable to trust in its people.

He will begin to doubt every part of his life and will battle internally for many things and over many things. His kingdom is divided. He is divided. His queen is divided. 

The king will remain vulnerable and uncertain of his kingdom’s future. He will surely be attacked and when he is, he will fight alone, for he knows not who is on his side. Then he will lose and his kingdom will be destroyed, dispersed, and delivered to another.

What a rotten way to lose your crown. From external beauty to internal decay. Some would say “it’s good to be the king!” I would conclude it’s harder to be a queen. 

Steve Curington grew up in a Christian home and graduated from North Love Christian School in 1984. After high school, Steve started a 10-year addiction to alcoholism and cocaine. After a serious car accident, Steve found complete sobriety through his relationship with Jesus Christ. After his recovery in 1996, Steve began Reformers Unanimous, a faith-based addiction ministry. What started as a humble, Friday night addiction class with four regular attendees in Rockford, Illinois, grew to a class of more than 300 people from the community and then spread to other churches across the country and around the world. The founder of Reformers Unanimous International (RU) died suddenly on October 30, 2010. Mr. Curington, a husband and father of five children, was only 45, but he accomplished more in his 15 years of ministry than many do in a lifetime. We know his work, his writing, his voice, and his reach will live on.

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