How to Avoid Hurting Other People’s Feelings

Proverbs 6:14 (Dissected and Defined):

Frowardness (unyielding) is in his heart, he deviseth (schemes) mischief (intentional injury) continually; he soweth discord.

Daily Devo Paraphrase:

He is unyielding in his meditator. In case you haven’t realized it by now, Solomon places great priority and responsibility on our meditator. That is our heart. It’s what we think. It is the “joystick” that determines to whom I will yield. If my heart is leaning toward the wishes of my soul (my mind, will, and emotions) then my joystick will take me in that direction. But, I will be stuck with no joy! If my heart is leaning in the direction of my Spirit, then I will do as my Spirit (God’s mind, will, and emotions) tells me.

Hurting the Feelings of Others

The naughty and wicked person stubbornly refuses to allow his “joystick” to be under the Power of his Spirit. He is not willing to yield or comply to that still, small voice.

He is constantly scheming intentional injury. “Deviseth mischief” is similar to the New Testament word for malice found in Ephesians 4:31 “…with all malice.” According to that verse, this person of malice has filled his heart prior to his malice with bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking. The natural outgrowth of such heart meditations is the desire to physically harm others.

He sows discord. The naughty and wicked person seems to leave problems wherever he goes. This is the opposite of the fruit of the Spirit, Meekness. He is unable to negotiate amongst God’s people without causing friction. Friction is his supposed friend. He believes he is right and others are wrong. Thus, his discord is his delight.

You might be appalled at the thought of being categorized by God as a naughty or wicked person. But, if your heart’s meditations are stubborn, if you are filled with bitter considerations, or if you create friction rather than reduce it, you may just find your name on that list.

Be sure you are “checking that list and checking it twice.” Santa isn’t the only one who finds out who’s been naughty or nice!

Steve Curington grew up in a Christian home and graduated from North Love Christian School in 1984. After high school, Steve started a 10-year addiction to alcoholism and cocaine. After a serious car accident, Steve found complete sobriety through his relationship with Jesus Christ. After his recovery in 1996, Steve began Reformers Unanimous, a faith-based addiction ministry. What started as a humble, Friday night addiction class with four regular attendees in Rockford, Illinois, grew to a class of more than 300 people from the community and then spread to other churches across the country and around the world. The founder of Reformers Unanimous International (RU) died suddenly on October 30, 2010. Mr. Curington, a husband and father of five children, was only 45, but he accomplished more in his 15 years of ministry than many do in a lifetime. We know his work, his writing, his voice, and his reach will live on.

4 thoughts on “How to Avoid Hurting Other People’s Feelings

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  2. Amen Bro . Curington!!

  3. Thank you! I love the Proverbs devotional and challenges you post.

  4. Thank you! I love the Proverbs devotional and challenges you post.

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