Proverbs 21:14 Dissected & Defined
A gift in secret pacifieth (appeases) anger (negative passions of the mind): and a reward in the bosom strong wrath.
It is true that if a man were to transfer a gift to the person whom he has angered and to do it in such a way as to surprise the angered, he would most often appease that anger. To simply pass it on to the person would not do; for they would never accept it. Their negative passions in the mind would not allow them to accept a gift from someone for whom they hold such indignation.
But if the violator were to place it in the right place of pleasure and do so at just the right time, then those negative passions of the mind would most assuredly produce a positive passion and counteract the anger of the violated.
Answer to Anger
That is why Solomon taught us that soft answers turn away wrath. When you reward anger with that which is pleasant to eyes or ears you will soften its rage and fury. It is an understandable meaning to an obscure passage.
But what of the Hidden meaning? Could there be something within this passage that expresses an act of our Inner Being? Oh yes, there is.
Where there’s Anger, there’s an Option
For the believer, whenever there is anger there is an option. Whether it is someone for whom you are angry or whether you have stirred someone to anger the Righteous One within you has a gift for you to give. That gift is His Presence to calm an agitated state. He can bring you peace in the midst of frustration; a gift for you to open and enjoy, or for you to distribute to the bosom of the offended.
“If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts…how much more shall your heavenly father give the Holy Spirit to them that ask him?” — Luke 11:13