The RU Ministry can be incredibly rewarding, but it also can be incredibly draining. No matter how many people you help, there is always more standing in line. If there is not, then you need to call our office and talk to Bro. Dale Akin or me so we can help you. This ministry is prepared for “such a time as this.”
The word “ministry” reveals that you will be dealing with people. This includes people from all walks of life. And sometimes that means dealing with people that other people don’t want to deal with anymore. I have met directors who get to a point where they isolate themselves from people and they begin to just go through the motions of Talk, Talk, Talk. I was thinking today about 3 specific relationships that will keep people in ministry focused:
1. A Back-To-Back Relationship
“Open rebuke is better than secret love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.” Proverbs 27:5-6
Every director needs someone who can challenge and encourage them to continue – someone who “has your back”. Directors can help other directors! Mrs. Burks & I have been scheduling RU Rallies where several chapters get together on a Friday and Saturday for encouragement. It is a great time of fellowship!
You need people in your life who love you enough to tell you the truth and talk to you instead of about you. Proverbs 27:17, “Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpenth the countenance of his friend.” One of our goals in identifying Premier Chapters was to create a list of Directors and Chapters who were doing it the “Rockford way” and seeing results. These men can help you! I look forward to the day when we have them in every town across America and around the world. Our “Find a Chapter” on the RU website has recently been updated and is continuing to be improved to help people find chapters to attend. However, it can also be used by directors to find chapters near yours!
2. A Shoulder-To-Shoulder Relationship
“Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him [that is] alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9)
Secondly, you need people in your life that will honestly say, “We are in this together.” These people should be the leadership team that works with you. Your leaders and helpers are there for you to invest in and mature. Some of them will be your closest friends in the ministry. They will carry the burdens with you. I encourage you to identify them. I encourage you to have a plan to meet regularly with them. Share your vision. Share your passion.
I always rejoice to see directors bring leaders to training conferences and watch as the chapters expand. You need a vision and you need others to get in that vision with you.
3. A Face-To-Face Relationship
“A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.” (Proverbs 18:24)
Never forget the most important relationships you have are the relationships with your God and your spouse.
Stay in your “It’s Personal” Daily Journal. If you don’t have one, then it isn’t personal! It is just something you see the need for your students to do. Then why don’t you do it? You need to get alone with God daily and walk with Him. I would love to see more posts on social media from directors with #itspersonaldjm in the post. It will greatly encourage you to walk with God and it will encourage others.
We can become so busy doing ministry that we forget one of the most important ministries we have is serving our spouse. Don’t get so busy working alongside each other that you forget to turn toward each other and reconnect.
One of the greatest things you can do for your church is to build a strong home and one of the greatest things you can do for your home is to build a strong church. Find ways to connect your family to the RU ministry. My wife and I had a tremendous joy this past week. Our daughter filled out an application to work at RU this summer. All three of our children have worked in this ministry over the years. What a joy to serve Jesus together.
You can’t do ministry alone! Embrace these vital relationships so you are ready to overcome adversity and endure through every season you face in ministry.