Exercising Humility by Walking Away from Arguments

 Proverbs 20:3 Dissected & Defined

It is an honour (esteem) for a man to cease (break away) from strife (contention): but every fool (one who knows right but chooses wrong) will be meddling (interfering).

Daily-Devo Paraphrase:

Solomon is giving us some very good words of wisdom here. He is telling us that we will never get ahead by trying to win an argument.

Pride Causes Contention

Solomon explained in Proverbs 13:10 that the only thing that causes contention is pride. Wherever there is pride, there is strife. He tells us that if we “walk away” from contentious fools that we will be honored. 

Of course, there are many passages in the Bible that explain how God honors those who humbly reject the proud. We can conclude, then, that when we face the contentious, the Spirit’s only alternative in leading us will be to prompt us to walk away.

Exercising Humility by Walking Away

If we are willing to reject our selfish desire to contend with the contentious, we will be exercising humility. God has promised great reward to those who are willingly humbled.

The benefit listed here for “walking away” is esteem. Esteem means “to be lifted up.” It could mean something as simple as looking good, glorifying God, or an actual promotion in your life’s work. Honor manifests itself in many ways, but it takes humility to gain it!

Contrast of the Honourable and Contentious

Solomon contrasts the honorable man who breaks away from the contentious man with a foolish man who continues until he meddles and interferes. Please realize that contention and meddling are two different things. Contentions are “argumentative strife.” However, meddling is “interfering in the life of another.”

So our wise teacher is telling us that humble people walk away from arguments, but the fool does not give up that easily. Rather, he will continue to argue until he has interfered with you personally. Now remember, a fool is “someone who knows what right, but chooses to wrong.” Thus, this contentious meddler is intentionally meddling! 

It’s quite obvious that most of us could not acquire humility unless we faced these fools with some sort of regularity. But to be humble, we must maintain our “Walk-Away Power!”

Sharing is Caring

Steve Curington grew up in a Christian home and graduated from North Love Christian School in 1984. After high school, Steve started a 10-year addiction to alcoholism and cocaine. After a serious car accident, Steve found complete sobriety through his relationship with Jesus Christ. After his recovery in 1996, Steve began Reformers Unanimous, a faith-based addiction ministry. What started as a humble, Friday night addiction class with four regular attendees in Rockford, Illinois, grew to a class of more than 300 people from the community and then spread to other churches across the country and around the world. The founder of Reformers Unanimous International (RU) died suddenly on October 30, 2010. Mr. Curington, a husband and father of five children, was only 45, but he accomplished more in his 15 years of ministry than many do in a lifetime. We know his work, his writing, his voice, and his reach will live on.

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