Why You Should Stop Resisting And Accept Reproof

Proverbs 9:7 Dissected and Defined

Reprove ( a correction that includes censor) not a scorner (leadership resisters), lest he hate thee: rebuke (chasten; correct) a wise man, and he will love thee.

Daily Devo Paraphrase

To reprove is “to correct someone through censorship, or by accessing blame.” Reproof is much worse than rebuke. Reproof is “to only be blamed for something wrong,” but rebuke is “to be blamed and punished for something wrong.”

How A Foolish Man Handles Reproof

Solomon is telling us that scorners or “people who resist leadership” will reject you if you try to assess blame on them for any wrong doing. Resistors never accept blame for their actions. They are scorners. They always shift the blame for things that go wrong in life. Think how difficult it is then, to not only reprove a resistor but to chasten them in such a way as to bring them into a right relationship with those whom they have harmed. It’s nearly impossible; everyone else is to blame (They usually believe it’s the fault of the leader!). 

How A Wise Man Handles Reproof

However, a wise man will accept blame and chastening. He understands that accepting the blame relieves him of the consequences (the guilt), and enduring chastening often removes consequences. He understands that true wisdom comes from being moldable through your mistakes. What a difference it makes when you work with the wise rather than with resisters!

What Happens When We Resist Reproof

This weekend I had a student leave our program and use drugs. He left a mess behind him: unpaid bills, lost employment, a broken-hearted pregnant wife. When he was done with his binge, I tried to counsel him. He explained that it was not his fault. He thinks “all us Christians” are just trying to “run his life.” He rejected every admonition and did not receive any of my carefully crafted encouragement. There was no way I could get this man to accept the reproof he so desperately needed to heed. Today, he got another job. “Everything’s fine now!” He’s back in church and serving others (albeit, in his own power). Sure, everything’s fine, Mr. Resister. But you will never learn to resist the devil unless you stop resisting the Holy Spirit, pal!

Sharing is Caring

Steve Curington grew up in a Christian home and graduated from North Love Christian School in 1984. After high school, Steve started a 10-year addiction to alcoholism and cocaine. After a serious car accident, Steve found complete sobriety through his relationship with Jesus Christ. After his recovery in 1996, Steve began Reformers Unanimous, a faith-based addiction ministry. What started as a humble, Friday night addiction class with four regular attendees in Rockford, Illinois, grew to a class of more than 300 people from the community and then spread to other churches across the country and around the world. The founder of Reformers Unanimous International (RU) died suddenly on October 30, 2010. Mr. Curington, a husband and father of five children, was only 45, but he accomplished more in his 15 years of ministry than many do in a lifetime. We know his work, his writing, his voice, and his reach will live on.

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