Proverbs 23:6-7 Dissected & Defined
Eat thou not the bread of him that hath an evil eye (deceptive motives), neither desire thou his dainty meats (amenities of pleasure): For as he thinketh (dwells) in his heart (meditator), so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart (thoughts) is not with thee.
The other day, we discussed how the quality of the countenance of our eyes is determined by the meditations of our heart. The above verses discuss the danger of befriending those who meditate on building deceptive relationships.
These people have an evil eye. That is to say, they project by their countenance that they are insincere with their generosity. Though they are givers, they have thoughts of return. That is not love. That is self-love.
Of course, no one wants to build an intimate relationship with someone who may have evil intentions, while at the same time engaging them in friendly fellowship. We would never attend such a dinner of deception. However, would we host one?
Each week, I deal with spouses disappointed with mates, parents upset with children, pastors frustrated with members, and teachers alienated by students. It seems everyone is let down by those whom they try to serve.
Yet, I am always surprised by the obvious expectations of return that the hurt had for the one who hurt them. It is natural to be disappointed when people take advantage of your service. However, they are not here to bring us joy. We are here to bring them joy! Unless you understand and accept this truth, you will become like those who have an evil eye.
Let me explain: you will still serve those to whom God has called you. You will develop, disciple, minister, and even fellowship with them. However, without an understanding of your calling to love them in the Spirit, you will eventually allow yourself to self-love your people—expecting things from them and getting nothing in return…
Eventually, you will go through the motions, but your heart will no longer be in it. You will offer them all you have, in Christ, but they will never get “your” heart. For it will be far from them.