Affecting Direction By Being The Neck

Proverbs 25:15 Dissected & Defined

By long forbearing (patiently waiting) is a prince (middle man) persuaded, and a soft tongue (considerate reply) breaketh the bone (changes opinions internally).

Daily-Devo Paraphrase

It is said that lightning can break a bone without piercing the flesh. This proverb contains an “underlying meaning” that represents a followship lesson from Solomon.

I have spent a large portion of my life in middle management. When you are under middle management you are at a great disadvantage. It is difficult to positively affect organizational direction. You may serve your leaders well, but it is hard to influence them. It’s true, it is easier to shake a tree from the top than from the bottom. 

The Value of Your Opinion in Direction

Does this mean that your opinions are of no value to your manager’s leader? No, quite contrary. Without them your organization, ministry or family will go in the wrong direction. Many a leader has failed to advance by stifling the counsel of those who serve under him. 

Become the Neck

So how do you become the type of person that can turn the leader’s head? 

Solomon’s reference to a prince would refer to an authority that is second in command under the king. Simply put, in today’s vernacular this would be the middle man. 

As a wife, child, or employee, your opinions are of great value to the middle man. (A husband under God; a manager under a boss, a child under a mother.) Yet, they may not be in a hurry to express your views to their authorities. You must be patient, you must forbear. But most importantly, you must respond with a sweet spirit. You should reply in such a way that never places outside pressure on their management, but rather stimulates internal persuasion within the manager.

Eventually, this bone breaking internal persuasion will bring your middle man to present your point of view. From there you will realize it is better to be the neck than the head. For surely it is the neck that turns the head!

Sharing is Caring

Steve Curington grew up in a Christian home and graduated from North Love Christian School in 1984. After high school, Steve started a 10-year addiction to alcoholism and cocaine. After a serious car accident, Steve found complete sobriety through his relationship with Jesus Christ. After his recovery in 1996, Steve began Reformers Unanimous, a faith-based addiction ministry. What started as a humble, Friday night addiction class with four regular attendees in Rockford, Illinois, grew to a class of more than 300 people from the community and then spread to other churches across the country and around the world. The founder of Reformers Unanimous International (RU) died suddenly on October 30, 2010. Mr. Curington, a husband and father of five children, was only 45, but he accomplished more in his 15 years of ministry than many do in a lifetime. We know his work, his writing, his voice, and his reach will live on.

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